Relationship Problems and Solutions
Emotional and sexual intimacy is very difficult to achieve and very few of us were ever actually taught how to achieve relationship nirvana. Couple relationships, living in close and constant contact with another person, are ideally supportive, fun, validating and safe for both partners. After the heady, pheromone assisted initial stages of attraction and formation of the couple, relationships are often also at times, distressing, frustrating and unsafe. The shifts in attraction, energy and reward in relationships are impacted by many external factors such as family and social expectations, work stress, financial difficulty, deficits in communication and living skills.
Take heart if you are experiencing difficulties in communicating, or poor problem-solving so that the same problems are recycled rather than solved, or struggling with poor support from your partner, or suffering from insufficient quality time together. You are not alone.
Research, into both happy and unhappy relationships, identifies very common problems in relationships which result in the failure of relationships. We know that specific relationships skills training can help you to solve problems, explore and communicate individual needs and goals, and define the boundaries and action plans necessary to achieve these. These very basic behavioral shifts can make a real difference to the way you experience your loved one.
You can learn to explore all possible solutions and use teamwork to problem solve manageable parts of the bigger picture in order to achieve the positve whole you seek. Research indicates processes which help you realistically value your partner such that they are invited to realistically value and support you in the ways that you need. You can build habits of scheduling quality recreational time versus business/problem solving time to enhance the friendship/relationship of coupledom. Couples often get stuck in patterns of problem solving/business-like interactions rather than relational interactions.
As a psychologists, I can become a real ally/coach in transforming the habituated patterns in your relationships until you have the relationship you want, the one which will sustain you and yours as you deal with those external factors. Take control make an appointment today.
